A friend of mine once called a man who was stalking and threatening her daughter and told him that she was going to New York to hire a hit man to kill him. He said, “You won’t do that. They’ll put you in jail.” She said, “That’s right, but first you will be dead.” They never heard from him again.

With so many women and men being murdered by violent spouses despite restraining orders and other apparently ineffective legal means, I’m looking for deterrents against such abusers that would be effective. What works when the legal system doesn’t? Ideas anyone?